"GIRLS" what do you think of this? Long but please answer(again sorry)?
Justin Asked: "GIRLS" what do you think of this? Long but please answer(again sorry)?
!!—BACKGROUND INFORMATION, DON'T HAVE TO READ UNLESS YOU WANT TO—!!
I met this girl in my 5th period class and she's amazing in every way, we always laugh and smile at each other and we started talking since, about December. I really like this girl, she is everything I want in a girls personality and she is the most beautiful girl I've ever seen. Only thing, she has a boyfriend, and one of her friends that's known her for a long time told me that he was yelling at her one day and she sometimes came to class crying and I asked her what's wrong, is she okay, stuff how he shouldn't be making her cry ever. He dropped out of school about 2 weeks ago and I've really fallen for this girl, we walk to 6th period together, joke along the way, she turns around and waits for me if there are people standing still and I have to go around, she looks at me a lot too. I gave her rides to her house about 8 times now and she told me on Facebook "I like riding with you anyways. It's entertaining". I hate how her boyfriend treats her but I don't want to tell her my feelings and lose her.
We're both 16 and in High school, we have a lot in common and dislike a lot of the same crap, she's so amazing, funny, smart, beautiful, and she plays X-box with me. Here are some Facebook quotes from when we talked all day until she went to sleep
"I feel better now that I've gotten it off my chest to someone"
"You are not just a person I'd only come to if I had nobody else, that's what you make it sound like lol. I like talking to you about stuff, you're understanding about it, it makes me feel more comfortable."
"I don't know what happened with you on friday, but I hope you're okay…" I told her I had to go and I went to lay down and started crying for the first time in about 3 years since my dog died, because I can't be with her…
—WHAT I SENT HER ON FACEBOOK TONIGHT, I KNOW IT SHOULD HAVE BEEN IN PERSON—
I've wanted to get this off my chest for a while now, but I can't ever find the right time, I know what you're going through with Austin and I don't want to add any more stress or anything to your life but I.. I think I already know the outcome, but I have to say this anyway. You're the first real friend I've had that is a girl and I know you don't want to hear this but, I really like you, more than just a friend. You're always making me smile and laugh even when I'm sad, you're the smartest girl I've ever met and you don't think stupid crap and act retarded. You like a lot of stuff that I do, and when you say your hair looks like **** it really doesn't but I didn't want to say anything because Alex and Michael were there.. This is getting too long and retarded so I'll just stop there, not that you aren't amazing or anything.. It's just going to be really awkward and weird when you read this, and I'm really sorry I just have to tell you. I didn't want to right now because you have a boyfriend you love, I just hate how he treats you and I really am not trying to convince you, persuade you, or offend you in any way but this is my honest opinion, and you deserve better, you deserve someone who will never make you cry or make you not be able to do something you want to(like dying your hair…). Anyways, you don't have to reply if you don't want to, I'll understand. I'm sorry if this weirded you out or anything, and you don't have to say or do anything, just know that I'll always be there for you, if you would have it so, even as only friends. Sorry it's so long..
—PLEASE READ—She hasn't replied yet, I don't even know if she read it yet. What would this mean to YOU? Also after 5th period today I waited for her to get off the phone with her boyfriend and she was sad again, she said he broke up with her over a text and I told her I was so sorry. She messaged me a little while ago and said "That was a lot to process" and we just started talking and laughing on Facebook now. I know I shouldn't rush her to get in a relationship but I don't know if any other guys are going to ask her out, I know that at least 2 already like her but I want her to feel safe before she gets back into a relationship and I want to go to Wal-Mart with her tomorrow because I need to get some shorts for Football season and stuff and I wanted to get her out of the house and her mind off her ex, IF they are officially broke up.
Answers:
Wow. A lengthy explanation of how you feel for this girl. To me it sounds like she likes you; if she was flirting with you while dating her ex-boyfriend, she probably feels a little guilty about it and doesn't want to jump into your arms just yet. It doesn't matter if any other guys are interested in her as long as you are the one she confides in most. Trust is one of the foundation pillars of any good relationship, and it sounds like you have that. You will just have to wait until she is ready to date you and in the meantime keep being the emotional support that she needs.
You sound so sweet and caring. If she doesn't like you or date you later on in life than shes missing what the world has to offer. To me, I would feel weirded out, I would think of it as some caring person. It would make me feel good after everything I've been through. You deserve only the best, and she sounds like someone great! Make her feel like the most special person ever, and never under any circumstance change who you are. Girls, like guys with confidence, and guys who know who they are. I'm 15, but if I was that girl I'd feel like the luckiest person a live.
I wish you the best of luck my friend!!!
That paragraph you wrote to her made me smile, a lot
Not just because it was really nice of you to tel her how much you care about her, but because I sent a very similar paragraph to a guy a like not too long ago. I mean, the circumstances were a little different, but this isn't about me so I won't go into that…
I think it's really nice of you to care, but, like you mentioned, don't try to push her into anything until she really wants to. It kind of sounds like she just likes you as a friend for right now. One of those really dependable friends that you know will always be there for you. Every girl likes to have at least one guy friend they can talk to without all the drama and crap you get from other girls. That's not to say it couldn't turn into something else, because it might, but like most things in life it will take some time.
Make sure you are supportive of her decision whether she chooses to just be friends or more than friends. But also be prepared for her to flat out tell you that she doesn't want a relationship with you or (depending on her personality) she might just want nothing to do with you because she might feel some pressure and be a little weirded out.
You seem super nice and you're actually not afraid to show your feelings. If I got that message that you sent to her, I might think it was a little strange at first, but it was definitely sweet of you to send.
It's guys like you that give me hope for society. Don't ever change 
omg phew! lol ok now if I would have read your message, I would wonder why you would keep telling me that I didn't have to reply back. I wish you wouldn't have told her that because it shows that you were very insecure about the message you sent her. But, I feel that you have a good chance with her. I know that if a guy sent me a message like that I would be absolutely flattered. Keep in mind that she seems to be blinded by her horrible boyfriend so she might not be able to see that she has a great guy that wants to treat her better. It might take her some time for her to realize if she wants to be with you. It's possible that she hasn't seen the message yet wait a while before you ask about it. One crazy thing about girls is that we neglect diamond that is right under our nose for the fools gold that we "think" we want.(you get the analogy) Give her some time.
Good luck and hope I helped at least a little.
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